Newmommytee's Blog

ok so i went to doctor for my checkup on the 7th.  i had to do the glucose testing. so not one of my favorites but i knew it had to be done. so they check my blood pressure and tell me that it’s high. 138/90. what the devil! i have NEVER had high blood pressure. so now Dr. Nguyen wants to see me every 2 weeks to monitor me. i’m not liking this at all. i will admit that i need to exercise. but i have cut out a lot of stuff to my diet and i know that i am not stressing over anything… especially stuff i have no control over. but i guess i’ll know when i go back on the 21st.  siiigh!

i do the tour of the labor and delivery room this saturday. i really hope it’s nice and a private room. i really want to be able to have guests and not have to worry about someone else in the room with me. i will try to take pics of the room and post them on here.

let’s see… what else? well i am about to enter my 3rd trimester. i know! time goes by really fast.  i am getting kicked and jabbed all the time.  she really cuts up while i’m at work! i can’t wait to set up the nursery. that’s going to happen after the shower.  but i am going to start doing some little things like taking out the bookshelves,  measuring the windows for curtains and painting the letters for kenya’s name.

oh if you want to know… here are the places that i’m registered: babies r us, wal-mart and target.  babies r us has the biggest list  since it is the baby superstore.  but walmart and target does have some of the things on there.

so until lata…

kenya bean’s mama

i went to register this weekend and talk about tiring!! my sister, nieces and i started out at babies r us and practically scanned every item in the store!! who knew there was soooo much! OMG! just the bottles and nipples alone were a head scratcher.  we got 2 scanners and let the girls scan as we pulled stuff off the shelf.  i ended up switching my nursery theme as it was hard trying to find the abc blocks. now it’s butterflies and ladybugs in purple and pink. sooo cute! my feet were throbbing by the time we left, but we had 2 more stores to go to.

headed to walmart but this particular one didn’t have a registry. boooo! so off to target.  their selection was not as vast but we did manage to get a lot of stuff on there.  mostly clothes and blankets though.

i’ll have to try another walmart for the registry although i did go online and get some stuff but it’s not the same.  so maybe i’ll go to the one by my house with the hubby and click on some stuff.

i have finished with my addresses for the shower. i’m at 65 people… excluding addresses my sister had already. yeah i know… alot of folks!

well the count down is on now that it’s a new year! i’m so excited!!! my aunties are coming in from atlanta and north carolina.  and i get to see friends that i haven’t seen in a while.  i can feel ms kenya moving around as if she knows what’s going on. nosey already! LOL

until next time

Kenya Michelle-Summers mama

Guess what I got today? My very first ultrasound!! Yay! I so love Dr. Nguyen! I’m 5 months and 6 days.  Can you believe it?! I can’t.  I heard the heartbeat and it was music to my ears.  And I saw the ultrasound in full 1080p. YAAAAAAY!

So here’s the picture.  For some reason, it scanned backwards.  But it’s still the ultrasound.  And if you know what it is, please don’t tell me. I want to be surprised!

it seems to me that the moment i announced that i was pregnant, i ceased to be Tarius and became a cargo ship for this child.  most people don’t bother to ask how i am doing but rather how’s the baby? um… if i’m not ok, then the baby’s not ok.  it seems all of the questions about my well-being are being centered around my stomach. if i grab my stomach, the automatic question now is “did the baby kick?” nobody seems to think that i could be suffering from an upset stomach or anything of the sort. if i say that i am tired, it’s automatically because i am creating new life.. not the fact that just worked 12 hours.

yes i appreciate the love and the concern, but i did not cease to exist at the moment i became pregnant. I AM STILL HERE!!! now if i start ignoring people who don’t have the decency to inquire about me then i’d be wrong and oversensitive. how about the fact that you are wrong and not sensitive at all? think about it.

Tarius

i got my first car seat… and a booster seat.  jackie came over and brought me a car seat and a booster seat. yay! 2 items i can scratch off my to buy list. gotta love my friends.

i cleaned out the closet in the room that kidney bean will occupy. i didn’t know that i was holding on to so much stuff. i was opening up boxes and bins and was like what in the world?? who knew i needed that many pitchers!  how much kool-aid was i planning on drinking.  the next trick is moving my bookshelves into the red room and making that organized.  if you’ve been to my house, you already know what the red room is and you know how dwayne has that room set up. yeah i know… it’s gonna be a hassle for the both of us to occupy that space.  but i think we can make it work.  he better make it work!

is anybody as ready for thanksgiving as i am? i mean seriously… i am so looking forward to this day! and it’s not because of the family gathering and all of that goodness.  i am just so ready for the food! i am looking forward to cooking with my sister and having the girls to help out. i have to plan my menu. i got most of it decided but it’s just the sides that i’m still debating on.  and desserts. well at least one of them. i gotta have sweet potato pie! i think if i didn’t make it, a lot of people would be disappointed!   i’ll post pics of the spread.

i guess i should be getting back to work, huh? i just don’t feel like it. i need to run to the ladies room again but i’m not looking forward to it. it’s cold in the building and having my bare butt in the cold air is not my idea of fun. anyway fam, i will chat with you later.

be blessed

tarius

friends and family:

i hope this letter is received in the manner in which it is intended.  i am not trying to call out or be negative in writing this but rather to explain once and for all a situation that has come up numerous times.  i want to just put it out there so that i have no need to have this conversation again.

i do appreciate all of you for wanting to include me in your plans for parties, concerts, and other outings.  i regret that i may have to turn the majority of those invitations down. it is not that i do not want to spend time with you but it is because of financial reasons.  without sounding all “woe is me”, here is the gist.  while i am on maternity leave, i will not be getting paid. once my vacation days run out, that’s it. no more paychecks until i go back to work. that doesn’t mean that the bills will stop. so any extra money that i have now is going into a savings account to maintain my household during that time.  and while you may say “well it’s only $30 or it’s only this amount of money”, i am looking at that “only” $30 as part of a bill.

so with that said, i hope that you all will understand when i have to say thanks but no thanks when you ask me to attend something with you that comes with a cost.  i am not looking for a handout either.  so no i don’t want you to pay for anything.  i just wanted to put it out so that i don’t have to keep having this conversation and to avoid the behind the hand whispers that i have changed or i’m acting as if i am the only person that has ever been  pregnant. that’s not the case at all. i just have to be smart with my money and if the activities are not a necessity, then i can do without them.

again, this letter is not intended to call out anyone in particular but rather an announcement to all.

be blessed,

tarius

it’s been a while since i’ve entered anything. blame it on the slug in me. i haven’t wanted to do anything when i get home from work other than eat dinner and crawl into bed. sorry about that. i promise to start posting more.

let’s see…i finally got a gold card. yay! i just have to redo all of my testing again. no big deal. then i have to deal with the people in the WIC office. i’m so not ready to battle with them over some cheese and milk but since my tax dollars have been paying for it, i will make the sacrifice. so if i show up at your door with a 12 pound box of cheerios… just take it and think of some creative ways to use em!

i decided on a theme for the baby’s room.  i’m going with the alphabet theme. it’s universal and it shows my love of the written word. yeah i know. how altruistic of me. isn’t that what reproducing is all about? making another vision of yourself? think about it and get back at me.

god parents… why is that people are vying to be the godparents of my child? i’m talking people who i have no more than a casual relationship with. or a WORK relationship with. i’m like um… can i at least start showing or feeling a kick or something before yall start heating up the holy water? and that decision is not going to be made lightly. the god parents will have to be someone responsible, with some type of moral fiber and common sense. trust me, those traits are not readily available at the local wal-mart.

touching… why are people rubbing on me like i am a buddha statue? it’s just my normal big girl belly. stop putting your hands on me. or at least ask first. i put my hands on my stomach either because i just ate and i’m trying to push the food through or i’m trying not to burp in your face. there’s no movement yet so stop touching me! thinking about heading to the print shop and getting some shirts made that says “touch me and i touch you back… HARD!” so if you’re reading this, you have been warned.

eating… i am so loving to eat right now. but i’ve been pacing myself. give me some fruit and some yogurt and some granola clusters and i’m a happy girl. i haven’t had any weird cravings… thank goodness.  yes i want some food that i haven’t had in a while, but that’s normal. everyone wants that. like i can’t wait for thanksgiving dinner. but hey… who doesn’t crave turkey and dressing this time of year?

ok i think that’s it for now. i did take a picture earlier this month. and doggone it if i don’t look 18 months pregnant. but hey i am a big girl and i’ve had a belly since i’ve known what a belly was.  i’ll post it later. but no promises. the bed has a strong pull on a sista at 6:15 pm.

smooches!

yesterday i had my first doctor’s visit! yay! but of course, my visit was not without adventure.

my appointment was at 8am.  i got there 2 minutes til.  i checked in at the front desk and took a seat.  they called me back to the front desk as they couldn’t find the paperwork that i’d already filled out. ok…no big deal. inconvenient but nothing to get crazy about.  so i fill out more paperwork and take it back.  i sit down and start to stare at the people around me, this one little girl in particular.  bless her heart.  the baby was about 3 or 4.  she had about as much hair as dust on a jar.  and her mama tied this ribbon around her head making her look like she was at mardi gras.  then the baby had on this tight one piece denim jumper…. dukes at that. before i could launch into a full on “why did her mama do that to her?”, they called me back to the desk.  i was asked if i’ve ever been a patient of a city clinic. i said not since i was a kid getting my shots.  they say ok and i go back to my seat.  before i can sit, they call me back.  they send me into another office to speak to someone else.

i go into this office and tell him i was there for prenatal care. he quickly informs me that they no longer offer prenatal. i was like “you have got to be kidding me!” i told him that i have an appointment and that the 7th was when i was told to come in.  he tells me to have a seat.  i sit and try to breathe.  he comes back in, along with the director of the center.  they then tell me that they were no longer taking new patients but since i had an appointment already, i was good.  ok… whew!  uh not yet. they can’t find me in the system. man what?! the director comes in there… followed by the front desk attendant.  they are all talking at once. but it appears that i am in the system under my maiden name… from when i was a kid! so i have to do my paperwork in my maiden name until i can “prove” to them i am married! are you serious?! come on man! go sit back out front.

alright alright. FINALLY! i get to head to the promise land! yay! i take my packet of paper to the medical section.  i had the girl my file and she hands me a cup.  i have to give a sample. the bathroom is about this | | small. i’m not.  so it took me a few minutes to get situated.  but i manage to get it. ok back to the desk.  she wants to weigh me. nuh uh, i don’t play that game.  then blood pressure.  it’s normal.  take some sugar water for diabetes test. go wait again. then into another room for medical history. it’s determined that i am 12 weeks pregnant.  yay!

an hour later, blood work… a lot of blood.  it’s 10 am and i haven’t eat. and did i say i just gave blood? yeah, the kid is not feeling too great.  go sit again.  then into an exam room. strip down and put on a paper gown.  in walks the most impersonal doctor ever.  she walks like herman munster and no smile. she tells me to lay down and then she slaps my breasts around in an exam.  oook. never mind that they hurt… THEY ARE ATTACHED YOU TWIT!  i’m commanded to scoot to the edge of the table.  i scoot and then she pushes my legs open.  i feel like a cheap first date. she jams in the pap smear utensils and does her thing.  she snatches that out and jams her fingers in.  yeah i’m really starting to feel dirty.  she walks away and says “get dressed and sit in the chair.” no hug or anything?  more questions and then back out to the waiting room.

into another room… MORE QUESTIONS! i finally leave there about 11 am and i am about ready to eat small children at this point.   my next appointment is on november 4th. hopefully this one will be less interrogating and i will be able to hear a heartbeat.

aaaahhh… the perils of the city clinics!

until next ride…

my girls are the best in the world.  ever since i’ve announced my pregnancy, they have been so supportive.  they’ve offered their support in just about everything. whether or not, i’ve been a ball of emotions or they were givng me adivce with my insurance dilemma, they have been my support team.

each morning, i get a text from kimmie or jackie saying good morning and asking about kidney bean.  while at work, stacey and trae and shaun and raychelle and yolanda and angelamichelle and mo mo and suzanne are talking to me about my erratic mood swings (that’s another post) or just listening to me vent about dwayne.  i also get positive texts from big yo each day and “big girl” advice from monica.  it’s a wonder that i get any work done! LOL

i’ve  gotten so many offers for babysitters and rides to the doctor’s office and things like that from my girls. i can’t tell them enough how much this means to me! i know that i am loved and my child will be just as spoiled.  if this is how it is this early in my pregnancy, i can’t WAIT to see what the last trimester is going to be like!

and not to leave out my fellas, i do have to say that they have been just as great.  john has been a riot.  he counts my restroom trips at work (i think for his amusement though) and coco puff has been on top of the moon.  dwayne’s cousins… by looking at themm you’d think they would be all hard core… but they are the biggest softies around.  you can tell that they are truly happy with us.

to be loved… it’s a great feeling!

ok i finally got word from medicaid. because i was honest and told them the truth about who lives in my household, i was denied for assistance. yeah i know it set me back in the insurance game.  so i spent a whole day trying to find  insurance that will cover maternity. didn’t know most insurance doesn’t cover pregnancy. but i can go get bigger tits if i want! anyway… i was starting to get desperate.

yesterday, dwayne calls me and said that he found some insurance that will accept my pregnancy as most folks are saying was a pre-existing condition. whatever, man! so i speak to the woman with the insurance company.  it sounds wonderful.  so wonderful in fact that i didn’t hear the warning bells in my head before i went and gave this woman payment information.  so while i’m waiting for this “informational” email, i started looking for a website for this company. didn’t find anything so i googled the number. it took me to a ripoff report site. whoa! nobody had ANY good things to about this company.  so i call dwayne and let him know my feelings.  he agrees with me. so i try to call the number back only to be directed to a voicemail. so i called my back and stopped payment on the charge.  whew! that was a $259.58  mistake i almost made.

so where does that leave me now? still uninsured. so i get to calling the city clinics to at least get into somewhere to see a doctor and get some guidance. i get the run around for about an hour.  i’m about to go off on the nonchalant clinic folks cause they are not giving me answers. i finally talk to someone with some sense and get an address to a clinic. they only do testing at 7:30 and 12:30. oook. odd times but whatever. friday morning i will be at the office at 7, waiting on them to open the doors. (remember to pack snacks).

i’m happy again. at least i will be seeing someone to let me know what is going on in my stomach.  yay! i will let you all know what the details are when i make it home!